Are entrepreneurs always dissatisfied?
It’s hard to stop and bask in your own achievements. It’s why we strive to build a tool that shows you how far you’ve come to motivate and inspire. Daniel DiPiazza, who works with plenty of young go-getters brimming with restless, entrepreneurial spirit, reminds us about the importance of learning to relax and appreciate your own hard work.
Grandmas have an uncanny way of presenting elegant solutions to life’s most vexing conundrums — wisdom without tripping the alarm system. Every day, mine would take me on a short walk from our suburban duplex to the small office where she practiced law at her own firm. I always thought the walks were social outings, but looking back, I know now they were opportunities for her to teach me her life philosophies.
At seven, I just wasn’t ready for the sophisticated dose of grandmotherly psychological judo I received, but her words stayed with me.
“Do not be beholden.”
We talked a lot about entrepreneurship, self-direction, motivation, and self-image on our walks. These may seem like heavy topics for a first-grader, but I am certain I would not be the person I am today had we not had these talks. One thing she said to me still rings crystal clear:
“There is no greater pleasure than working for yourself. You do not want to be beholden to anyone else. Chart your own path.”
Photo: Cornelia Kopp
As I got older and started working, something didn’t feel right. I never really felt like I fit in anywhere that I worked. At first I thought it was the job. Or the boss. Or the co-workers. Or the uniform. Until I ran out of “or’s”.
That’s when I realized — it was me.
So what I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we are truly the authors of our own ambitions.
Alain de Botton, in his July 2009 TED Talk about success.
From looking at the time logs of extremely successful people, I’ve learned that they focus on three categories: nurturing their career, nurturing their family and nurturing themselves.
“I feel I was simply stubborn enough to want to do my thing… . If there’s something that you want to do, you should just do it. And maybe the world will reward you and maybe it won’t, but it doesn’t matter as long as you’re happy.”
The Big Think asked Malcolm Gladwell what the secret was behind his success. We learn from his answers not to worry about it, that expertise doesn’t necessarily translate into success, and that if you do what you want to do, that’s success enough.
In case you missed any of them, this week’s best tweets from @iDoneThis. This week, happiness and success are head to head in the popularity vote.
- These 10 habits may be keeping you from happiness. Do you know what they are and how to quit them?
- Here are the 10 rules that successful people live by. Do you know them? Do you live by them?
- Want to get ahead of the competition? You’ll need to do what others don’t. These 21 things will give you an edge in the race for success.
- The World Happiness Report, commissioned by the UN Conference on Happiness, reveals what makes us happy worldwide. The data on work & happiness is especially intriguing.
- Sometimes the only motivation you need is knowing that it can be done. And it can. Inspiration on not giving up and assurance that you are on the right track.